September is doing all the things. Mercury is in Retrograde. COVID is still real. Life is life-ing. Across my coaching sessions you have said y’all are exhausted, overworked, underappreciated, and refusing to slack off because Black women don’t move like that.
Y’all have heard me ask: At what cost?
How much longer will you be able to maintain this pace?
What would ‘better’ look like, feel like, smell like, sound like, taste like?
My job as a coach is not to tell you what to do. It’s to ask questions. Offer things for your consideration. Challenge you to consider another viewpoint.
My coach is doing the same with me. I, too, managed to allow my schedule to get out of control in August. I looked up and it was September and I couldn’t even remember my late-July vacation.
One thing about me is that I’m going to find a way to bounce back. Here are a few things I’m going to try as I seek to enter this next quarter from an empowered place. I hope they help give you the energy you are to reallocate time in the 4th quarter.
- Back to a 30-45 min weekly planning time. I used to do this session with the Joy Collective and even hosted monthly sessions for my network in 2021. I miss having this time to prepare for the workweek. You can do the same by hopping on Zoom with friends or doing it as a family activity.
- Time Blocking. I’ve written about time-blocking before. This tool is essential because meetings aren’t work and virtual land has created the conditions to expect back-to-back-to-back meetings ALL. DAY. LONG. Time blocking allows me to schedule dedicated working times where I can process all the meetings and build relationships. If you adopt this strategy treat this time as a sacred, non-negotiable meeting with your brain.
- Our labor laws in the U.S. are trash but most jobs allow for a 30-minute lunch break. Take it! Step away from your desk and get back into your body.
- Before saying yes to another request ask a LOT of questions. Nitpick the hell out of the request to ensure that your yes is deeply aligned to your job, values, and goals. Am I the best person for this request? If I wasn’t available who would you ask to serve in this capacity? How much time is expected for me to participate? When will this project/committee/etc. end?
I mean, it’s wild that the rest of us feel like we are letting folks down by prioritizing ourselves in our own lives. Hopefully, we are learning that the way these Gen Zers are set up – the way they walk into interviews asking about PTO, mental health coverage, and PD budgets – is the new minimum standard. Holistic growth is non-negotiable for Gen Zers; it’s not something they have to earn by paying unstated, outdated dues.
Yep, just writing that sentence triggered me.
Here’s the thing. So many of us have stopped believing in what’s possible because of what we’ve seen firsthand. Our doubt needs to catch up with these company policies and statements. Until then, let’s leverage the hell out of them before they disappear. Let’s use these resources to reset ourselves!
- Not Your Mama’s Quarterly Review (template): https://www.iamkelli.com/signup-form/
- EFT Tapping with Libby: https://smpl.is/2x8d
- Liberate Meditation: https://liberate.app.link/tUpSy4cV4rb
- What It Takes For Black Executives To Succeed In The C-Suite #BEcsuite – https://www.linkedin.com/video/live/urn:li:ugcPost:6978875693002551296/
- Equity in Pay – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MTjAVq2OhgA
- In a Distracted World, Solitude Is a Competitive Advantage – https://hbr.org/2017/10/in-a-distracted-world-solitude-is-a-competitive-advantage