Tonight the hubby and I saw the award-winning film, Things Never Said (TNS). TNS was written and directed by Charles Murray, a friend of ours from Los Angeles. As I sat in the theatre watching the film unfold my mind filled with nostalgia for my time in Los Angeles. Grad school with Charles’ wife, Nicole. Folding cloth diapers for one of their daughters. Their house on 61st Street. Eating good food, talking and writing at Simply Wholesome. My introduction to the yoga ball and the ability to heal myself naturally. My friendship with Nicole brought all that to me. Our relationship exposed me to things and experiences that strengthened me.
Charles and Nicole were probably the first hip, young couple with a mature relationship that I knew. They had this relationship that I admired. Two old souls loving each other and building this beautiful life together. I loved how Nicole and Charles encouraged each others dreams. They didn’t belittle or cast doubt on each others potential. I watched them face tremendous heartbreak and overcome. They found a way to keep going and to continue to build this amazing family and network of friends.
In TNS, the storyline of Kal, the main character, unfolded layer by layer. Her family history. Her emotional pain. Her lack of knowledge and confidence in who she was. Her desire to be the good, reliable one. Kal tried to fight back against these obstacles, sometimes in ways that complicated her life.
I could totally relate.
Often it the seemingly self-assured woman who is the most insecure. The self-doubt holds her/us/me back. The self-doubt becomes fear and then she/us/me becomes paralyzed and trapped in a life that has moved away from purpose. Kal’s journey to finding herself was one that all of us must take if we are to ever face that thing deep within us that’s waiting to be unleashed.
I applaud Charles for bringing Kal to life. For weaving the women in his life into this beautifully complicated character. And I thank him for reminding me of the things that have helped shape me into the woman I am. Every heartache and smile has been for a reason greater than I ever could have imagine. Charles, thanks for showing me what dreams can become when you love yourself enough to try.
N.C.M. you are never forgotten.